Art of Kissing...
Art of Kissing...
So, if it’s gonna be your first kiss and several questions might come to mind:
**Is anyone watching?
**Does your partner even want to?
**Is your breath fresh?
**And the big question...
Should you use some tongue?
**Then you lean in and just go for it!!!
NOTE: Am neither Philematophobe nor a Philematologist…
Steps involved in kissing her…
kissing experience may differ from one person to another but the basic fundamentals remain the same.
The first step in kissing is known as "Getting into position".
The second step is called "Finding her comfort level" and
The last step, the last step… well, I leave that to your imaaagination.
How to get into position??
Now, there may be lot’ff ways for getting into a good position for a satisfying kissing session…
The keyword here is flexibility. If you are driving her home,
BIKE: For safety reasons I’ll not utter a word…
CAR: It is a good idea to get out of your driver’s seat, walk over to the other side, open the passenger door, and accompany her to her porch/apartment door.
If you both happen to be watching TV on the couch, arrange it such that she is comfortably wedged at the end of the sofa, her body leaning on the sofa’s arm while you are seated at her side. This way, she will not be able to edge away from you when you try kissing her. (Stay away from knives, heels, bamboo sticks)…
Finding her comfort level…
This involves gauging whether she is ready for the kiss. Remember, there are always other options.
You could avoid kissing altogether: a little gesture to remember the occasion with, (This doesn’t mean that u have to kiss her all the time you meet…) a nice bow with a flourish, a good handshake (although personally, it feels really weird shaking your date’s hand. A pat on the shoulder perhaps… but a handshake! )
Well, I guess it is all the matter of taste, really. A goodbye wave, a gentle caress of her cheek (NOTE: they r not babies they r babes so, act accordingly). You could make it a neutral kiss: throw her a kiss into her lips, don’t ever try to kiss her hand, which will make you a Pope, don’t ever try kiss her cheek, which is actually her grandmother’s duty… a quick peck, kiss your finger and touch it to her lips, which reveals that you ate onion r ginger… And of course, there's the kiss, but which is rotten nd fishy… it is worthless…
In general, you should follow everything mentioned in Dating, Ending the date. If you are going to tell her you are going to call her just to have something to say, do remember to call. Most men do this and it drives girls crazy because guys never do call…
Kissing Stuff…
When you are alone with her on her porch/door, place your arm around her in a gentle, non-threatening way (don’t do it like Koundamani). If she does not cringe away from you or push your arm off her, you can proceed to the next step. Next lean your head against hers, appearing to rest it.
She should do the same. Then take your hand from hers, make a shape like you were going to pull the trigger on a gun. DON'T whatever you do, firm your hand, relax.
Let it flow. Place the tip of your index finger (the tip = the joint farthest from you hand) under her chin and lift her head to your mouth. Do all this in slow motion (NOTE: No music effects w’ll b given). She will remember it better if you do it slow. Don't rush it. Kiss as though you have all the time in the world. But don't prolong a kiss beyond its natural life.
If she pushes you away, she is just not ready (start counting 1..2..3..GET SET GO!!). Do not push your luck and never ever push your way hoping to get "lucky". You can always end things is by giving her a nice big hug.
We seem to have become a nation of ‘maintain a distance with the opposite sex’… (Why not a nation of kisses like in
There are some movie stars who perpetuate bad kissing styles. There's the Tom Cruise Method (as seen in Top Gun), whereby his tongue is already slithering out before he's met her lips. This is also referred to as the Lizard-King Style, and once lip-locked, it may also feature the rather grotesque tongue inserted rapidly in and out. Most women do not cherish the idea of kissing a large anaconda, which is what this must be similar to. Equally unappealing is when the guy's tongue seems to be on a thorough search for any food trapped between the woman's molars. This is her tongue's job, not yours. The only response possible is for the woman to open her mouth wide and remain motionless while he finishes his routing, a posture that calls to mind trips to the dentist…
Kissing is a kind of complex behaviour that requires significant muscular coordination. In fact, totally twenty muscles work cooperatively. The most important muscle involved is the orbicular is oris muscle, which is used to pucker the lips and informally known as the kissing muscle. The tongue can also be an important part of the kiss.
Asymmetry in kissing
Avoid a clash between noses while kissing, people often turn their faces slightly to one side, this position brings comfort to them, one member of the couple may support the other, perhaps across the lap or in an embrace…thus combining hugging with kissing. The person supporting the other may tend to take the more active role in the kiss.
[NOTE: Asymmetry & anatomy info was taken from Wiki]
kiss is like the fusion of two mortal individuals' existence in the immortal world of love care and affection...
kiss means you r there beside him/her eternally...
kiss give you essence of having everything what you need and everything you don’t feel thee making you no more lonely even when you are in the Venus where you wont find a single soul...
kiss...its the only word that defines itself without even explaining...
NOTE: I don't have any personal experience in this topic...[:d]
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Tuesday, December 26, 2006
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