Love = fate!!

Is love over-rated? All through a man’s life he is bombarded by this force of nature, this little sensation in our soul, the tingly feeling in our heart, the source of instant gratification. Some people call it ‘love’. Love as a divine presentation. Yet others call it as a mere chemical reactions (Chemical reactions may involve some amalgamation process of hearts and brains by induction method) or something to that effect. Whatever that is, one thing is for sure. We are fascinated, enslaved and betrayed by it.

One of my favorite things to do is to ride on an empty road in my cruiser. While I was doing just this, I saw another vehicle race towards me in the distance. With the bad eyesight those endless hours of sitting in the computer have bestowed upon me, I was able to make out little of the person driving in the scooter. As it neared me however the curvaceous outlines of her body and the elegant posture did little to hide the gender. When she crossed me, in the flying moment, my eyes locked and time froze, the intensity of that split second and the ferociousness of that gaze sent me on a trip to heaven. Now I’ve never personally been in love, but if that split second is any indication of the true quality of love?

Answer: Possibly ‘YES’ but probably ‘NO’.

Consciously or unconsciously, people believe love is a sensation (based on physical and emotional attraction) that magically, spontaneously generates when Mr. or Ms. Right appears. It can spontaneously degenerate when the magic "just isn't there" anymore. You fall in love, and you can fall out of it. Love is the attachment that results from deeply appreciating another's goodness. But as far as parents are concerned ‘LOVE’ is a sin. Parents virtually become misogynist because of the reason that their “SHE” has fallen in love.

But is love necessary? From what is seen around and by carefully weighing the pros and cons, love brings as much sadness as it does happiness. Peoples’ lives ruin when a loved one is lost. Hearts wither in the gloom of lovelorn emotions. So what’s all this fuss about love?

To answer this question we must first delve into the subject of ‘life’

As a wise man once put so eloquently, ‘life sucks’. It is an accepted fact though people might word it differently. We are born one day and die another. And the days between these two are tumultuous. In the broader picture these days are insignificant to humanity. The earth revolves, the sunshine’s, the birds chirp and you are forgotten.

Then how in god’s sweet playground do we deal with life? The answer lies in your heart. It lies in this silly thing called love. It makes our journey to obscurity a little less bumpy. It eases the turbulent flow of the insanity of life.

Is love a choice? If love comes from appreciating goodness, it needn't just happen but, you can make it happen. Love is active. You can create it. Just focus on the good in another person (and everyone has some). If you can do this easily, you'll love easily. By focusing on the good, you can love almost anyone. And as far as bad things are concerned… umm… It is just up to you to choose that person.

Remember there are levels of love, and true love is unconditional love, a "CHOICE" and just because someone says they love you doesn't mean they love you. Their actions will tell.

There are many combinations, all of which form some kind of love. Is there passion and friendship but very little commitment? This is defined as "passionate love." Are you committed but feels no passion or friendship? This is called "empty love." What most people ultimately desire, is "TRUE LOVE" the total package: passion, intimacy, friendship and commitment in one healthy relationship. It's the most fulfilling love. It is unconditional, and in my opinion the only "CHOICE".

Because deep, intimate love emanates from knowledge and giving, it comes not overnight but over time -- which nearly always means after marriage. The intensity many couples feel before marrying is usually great affection boosted by commonality, chemistry, and anticipation. These may be the seeds of love, but they have yet to sprout. On the wedding day, emotions run high, but true love should be at its lowest, because it will hopefully always be growing, as husband and wife gives more and more to each other. Exactly WHAT??

Love can be viewed triangularly. There are three key components: passion, intimacy, and commitment.

Passion underlies physical desire, sexual behavior, and arousal. This is the physical side.

Intimacy is the emotional aspect: closeness, connectedness, and warmth of friendship.

Commitment is the decision-making part "CHOICE" of love; are couples willing to work it out?

If someone tells you true love only happens once BEWARE!! They've seen too many Disney films or are trying to manipulate you. People are capable of falling in and out of love so if your "true love" turns out to be abusive or makes you cry more than smile end it and find a healthy person to love.

It is the fate of fate that fate is always addressed only when bad things happen…

It is the fate of love that love is always been seen by our parents as a sin…

It is the fate that some people fall in love and ultimately crash into the sea shore with a beer bottle with long beard…

It is the fate that some people happen to marry the same girl they loved… He He!!